Have you noticed more often we are in a hurry?
To get there! But, where’s there?
The end of the race, the prize, the result, the event, the day.
We work hard, commit and sometimes even fight hard to reach it.
Interestingly, no matter how keen we are to get there, we’re often not prepared for when we arrive or for what arrives.
While the physical engagement may be over, it is not the ‘end point’.
The impact of the whole experience continues; the mental and emotional aspect comes into play.
You work hard to win a race in a state running event. You run the race, and when the event is over, there may be many mental challenges to face.
If you won the race, while you feel great, you may feel lost once the training is over. If you lose the race, while the event is over, you may mentally go over the race and ruminate for weeks to follow. No matter what the result, the mental and emotional impact, may travel with you for a lifetime.
We so often place so much emphasis on the result.
And depending on your attachment to the event, as to how and how much it affects your next steps moving forward.
The school report, a diagnosis, job application.
When we view these moments as ‘end points’, it can potentially play havoc with how we turn up in the world after that.
When we ‘hand over the reigns’ at these end points, we enter the up down roller coaster ride.
When we see these points as part of the life-long unfolding, the roller coaster is replaced by the steady climb to the top of the mountain.
A climb that brings the space to appreciate and transform new sights and experiences along the way.
Where we intrinsically know to lookout and grow, to climb higher and reach beyond.
Moving away from the ‘end point’ mindset, has the potential to:
- ease the all or nothing mindset (that often stifles our persistence and ability to keep going in the face of disappointment)
- lessen the demands we put on ourselves (from preconceived expectations)
- create a healthier relationship with our ego (which would otherwise shape our self-worth based on outcomes)
- help us walk the path (with more curiosity about future outcomes over fear and worry)
- help us be more open (to face what is needed for our own improvement)
So how do we embed a new relationship with outcomes and results to benefit in this way?
Through our intentions and ongoing practice!
Our talk, before during and after.
Our actions, before during and after.
Our acceptance that life is fluid, organic and eternal and always has been and will be.
The Vision Web process helps guide us in the climb up the mountain.